The moment we seek the approval of others, we turn over a bit of our power. Do you feel that? Has it happened to you?

It’s one thing to craft a brand and messaging system that resonates with your audience, preemptively meeting their needs. In this case you are positioning yourself as an ally, someone who is there to help.

But don’t allow others’ opinions to trump the true feelings of your heart about who you are and who you want to be.

How do you tell which kind of approval you’re seeking? Try stepping back and truly asking what your intentions are in asking the question. Usually your heart lets you know.


Too easily, life reaches a pitch of the kind often called “fevered.” When we find that our obligations are eclipsing our own needs, it may be time to seek help.

No one can do it all. The media likes to make heroes of individuals, but the idea that a single person can run an empire could not be further from reality.

We need each other. Think about how talented you are and how and willing you are to lend a hand. How would you feel right now if a friend asked you for help? Chances are, as long as you are caring for yourself, too, you’d feel great about being of assistance.

So the next time you choose to seek help from others, why not go about it joyfully? It’s so easy to think we are a burden. Switch your thinking. Seek assistance on your next task with the happy expectation of a positive exchange.


“Asking for help does not mean that we are weak or incompetent. It usually indicates an advanced level of honesty and intelligence.”

― Anne Wilson Schaef


Ask your friends or colleagues who they hand off their smaller tasks to. You may be surprised how many are using services, assistants or caregivers to get through their daily lives. See if you can adopt one, too, that will relieve stress immediately. Try websites like TaskRabbit or UpWorks to take over small tasks no longer worth your time.